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I offer both In person and sessions by video link.  I offer morning, afternoon and evening sessions. Also on Saturday mornings. 

My counselling room is situated 300m from Caterham main line station and 2m from junction 6 M25. 

We are situated in a quiet area and there is plenty of parking of site. 

It's best to contact me to find out what spaces I have and please feel free to call or text if easier for you. 

Everyone can have a no cost initial meeting of up to 75 minutes to find out if working together is right for you. 

Most couples do not seek therapy because they have forgotten how to communicate. They seek therapy because they have become trapped in patterns they cannot understand, interrupt or change.

Many of the couples who contact me have spent months or years trying to resolve the same difficulties. They have talked endlessly, searched for answers, read books, listened to podcasts and often tried counselling before. Despite their efforts, the same arguments, disappointments and disconnections continue.

I offer a specialist relationship service based on a comprehensive relational model. Rather than focusing solely on communication skills or conflict management, I help couples understand the deeper processes shaping their relationship and maintaining distress.

My approach views relationship difficulties within the context of the relationship as a whole. This allows couples to move beyond blame, defensiveness and repeated attempts to fix symptoms, towards a deeper understanding of what is happening between them and why.

Couples seek my help for a wide range of concerns including recurring conflict, emotional distance, trust difficulties, affairs, intimacy problems, major life transitions and long-standing patterns that seem resistant to change.

Relationship difficulties rarely emerge overnight and meaningful change rarely comes from simple solutions. My work is for couples seeking a thoughtful, in-depth process that aims not only to reduce distress but to create a stronger and more resilient relationship.

The focus of my work is helping couples understand and change the patterns that drive conflict, disconnection and dissatisfaction within their relationship.

Unlike approaches that concentrate primarily on communication techniques, I work from a comprehensive relational model that seeks to understand how difficulties develop, how they become established and what keeps them in place.

Therapy provides an opportunity to examine the relationship in a different way. Rather than becoming caught in familiar arguments about who is right or wrong, couples are supported to understand the relational processes that influence their thoughts, feelings and responses to one another.

Through this process, recurring conflicts can begin to make sense, entrenched positions can soften and new possibilities for connection can emerge.

I work with couples experiencing persistent conflict, emotional withdrawal, affairs and betrayals, intimacy difficulties, parenting pressures, separation decisions and other significant relationship challenges.

The aim is not simply to improve communication or reduce arguments. The aim is to develop a deeper understanding of the relationship itself, enabling lasting change and a more secure foundation for the future.

Following the initial free session I offer.

While in the first and every session I aim  or you to make progress I remember from my own therapy I felt embarrassed and unsure about everything and needed to get to know my therapist, settle into the session and understand what we were doing. That's why we go at. pace you are comfortable with, and I'm happy to guide and lead a session if you feel stuck or unsure. Usually though I'm explaining exactly how I'm thinking before we begin. Then we start the work and  there  is no reason why progress cannot be made from day 1. 

Often much is said in a session and it can be difficult to remember everything. That's why I often send summaries of what was important that came out of a session. Also thoughts i've had to help you keep progressing until wee met again. 

Sessions at 75 minutes which is longer than traditional therapists give us more time for both change and understanding to happen. 

In the sessions you are free to share only what feels comfortable as some clients prefer to start with less contentious issues at first. 

I will be led entirely by you.