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I am available for face-to-face and online therapy during the following hours.

Monday 8am - 3pm and 6pm - 8pm

Tuesday 8am - 3pm

Thursday 8am - 3pm

Friday 8am - 3pm

Welcome! I'm Victoria Kearns (she/her), a culturally sensitive, accredited integrative psychotherapist with specialist training in supporting people with psychosexual and relationship challenges.

I commonly support people in rebuilding their sexual, intimate and emotional lives following life experiences and communication patterns that have led to disconnection and dissatisfaction.

I offer a compassionate and confidential space for you, as a couple or individually, to explore and reflect on your experiences, the way in which these affect you and your hopes for change.

I work with people of all ages (from 18+) and sexual orientations, from different cultural and heritage backgrounds, as well as neurodivergent and disabled people. I am an ethical non-monogamy and LGBTQ+ friendly practitioner, and I am kink aware.

I commonly support clients with...​

Relationship conflict and arguing

Communication difficulties and emotional disconnection

Sexual desire discrepancy

Overcoming sexual shame and trauma

Cheating/affairs and their aftermath

Finding greater joy in sex

Loss of sexual desire

Challenges initiating sex

Painful intercourse

Erectile dysfunction and rapid ejaculation

Difficulties with arousal and orgasm 

Ethical non-monogamy (ENM)

LGBTQ+ relationships

Intercultural relationships

Couples / Relationship Therapy

Couples usually come to see me when they are having difficulty communicating or making change around important areas of their lives together. This may include a distressing communication pattern, an emotional or sexual intimacy issue, or a betrayal.

Therapy with me offers a compassionate space for you to explain and reflect upon the difficulties you are experiencing, and to feel heard and understood, by me and first and then by your partner. Sometimes this means sitting with some vulnerability and discomfort, learning to emotionally regulate and learning and accepting things about yourself and others, some of which can be changed.

The beginning weeks of therapy sometimes involve the identifying and softening of a negative communication pattern around problem areas. These patterns can lead to overwhelming emotions or emotional shut down which makes it difficult to talk about an issue in a calm and connected way. Subsequent weeks can then focus on hearing and understanding one another and collaborating to actively resolve a problem.

Psychosexual / Individual therapy

When supporting people in psychosexual or individual therapy I begin by providing you with an open, empathic space to share the difficulties you are experiencing. We may then take some time to explore the experiences you have had that may be contributing to your challenges. These may include current relationship dynamics, childhood experiences or narratives you have learnt about sex or your body from family, social media, peers or porn. that are hurting you. We may also explore feelings of shame, guilt and anxiety that you may have and what triggers them.

Sometimes therapy involves practicing some evidence-supported exercises at home, in your own time. These are usually focused on supporting you in connecting with your senses, and with your hear and now experience, helping your mind to step aside so that your body and mind can be in greater balance. 

Our first 50-minute session is an initial assessment session. In this session I'll briefly introduce myself and share with you a little about how I work. I'll then invite you to introduce yourself and to share with me what you know already about the problems you are experiencing and how you hope therapy could be useful to you.

By the end of this assessment session I will normally be able to tell you if I think I can work with you. You can then, either let me know in session if you think you can work with me, or come back to me after you've had a couple of days to think about it.

Once we start working together there is no set number of sessions that you need to attend, but I generally support people on a weekly or bi-weekly basis at the same day/time each week.