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I have availability on Tuesday's daytime and evening and on Thursday evening.  

If you are looking on here I’m going to hazard a guess that you're struggling in one way or another with emotions, in yourself or in your relationship. Emotions can feel big, overwhelming, hard to predict and understand. How we relate to our emotions, and why we end up relating to them in the way we do, can feel like a mystery. It can feel unsafe to allow our emotions to be there, so we find ways of coping with them that end up making them feel worse in the long run.

Emotions are information about our needs, wants and boundaries. Many of us are not taught how to understand our emotions, how they affect us and how to receive the information they’re giving us.

We have a lot of needs growing up, we need safety, for our needs to feel attuned to, consistent connection and our basic needs consistently met. Meeting these needs as a parent is hard, but when these needs aren't met it can create difficult feelings inside, we can feel very alone with those feelings, it can feel like there’s something wrong with us. If you also add into that the big feelings that come with being neuro diverse, or painful childhood experiences like neglect, abuse, bullying, parents struggling in their own ways, or any of the many other struggles we can face growing up, it can feel like so much has stacked up, opening the floodgates will overwhelm you.

We often then take all of these needs, fears and feelings into our relationships. At first it might feel like it’s taking the pain away, but overtime the relationship can become a source of pain too. We are expected to know how to have a healthy relationship, even though no one taught us how, but relating is hard, there are so many hidden emotions that get in the way of safe connection, and when we don’t feel connected to our partner it hurts.

Taking time to unpack our emotions, either together in couples therapy, or individually, learning ways to cope, communicate and regulate, changes our connection to ourselves and each other. 

I’m trained in integrative approach. This means I’m trained to work with various approaches, allowing me to get a sense of the approaches that might work best for you. Whether coming as an individual or as a couple, I will start by taking some time to get to know you. I will explore your history and needs to build a picture of who you are, the ways you are struggling, and what techniques might feel right for you to support the changes you are looking for. The approaches I favour are trauma informed/somatic techniques including, Felt sense meditation, Self-compassion, EFT tapping, Emotion Focused, Inner child work, Exploration of parts of self, Nervous system regulation. With couples I work with Emotion Focused Communication, understanding attachment and bring in various, well researched, tools and information to supporting building a relationship that thrives. Feel free to visit my website for more information.

I work online only. I welcome diversity including all body sizes, abilities, races, sexualities, genders, working inclusively with GSDR, religious and political values. 

I have personal experience with Neuro Diversity; I welcome clients curious/questioning/diagnosed neurodiverse

I offer a free 15 minute phone call. This gives a chance for you, or you and your partner, to get to know me, share a little of what you’re going through and for me to answer any questions you might have about how I can support you.

If you are happy to go ahead, I will book a first session where I will run through a short assessment, have time to learn in depth what you are seeking support for. 

If risks are identified in the assessment, for example abuse in the relationship or active suicidal feelings, I will do a longer assessment over the first few sessions so see if I'm the right support for you, and if not explore what would be best next steps.

It is important that you feel held and understood by me: I will gladly invite any thoughts or feelings on how I am supporting you and if there is anything that you would like to change or explore.